The beginning question

Questions to reflect on: So, with many people blogging about their loved ones, dates and the like, I'd like to hear from each of you what your ideal date would be. What would be the coolest way to be pursued or asked out? What puts you off and what intrigues you?

My ideal date would be something simple really. So long as I get to spend time with him, I could really care less. First, though it's hard, we are yet again trying to convince his mother to let him come down for the weekend before Memorial Day. Our 6 month anniversary is on that weekend and we thought if we were able to share it together then all would be fine.

First, I would have to introduce him to my family, which both of us are dreading, mainly because they will tease us endlessly, but it has to be done. Then we have discussed going to a tiny place for dinner, mainly the restaurant my family owns, but that got thrown off because of a fire they recently had. So we have to find another little Italian joint.

I suppose from there we would go to a movie, I'm hoping for a horror, creepy, slasher film. We had planned to go see "My Bloody Valentine" when it was out, but that plan fell through. After the movie, we plan just to go somewhere and hang out, just to be together. If I get my way we will go to a beach or something, just because we both dream of living by the ocean. I'll have to go home after that, but hopefully he will stay for the whole weekend and I would be able to see him again the next day.

It was rather odd, just the way we went after each other. You see, I met Max on a forum site called Proboards, or rather one of the variations of it that I roleplayed on. In truth I've known him since around August or so, but you see, everyone on the site thought he was a girl, including myself. That was before I started really talking to him. In Novembr he decided to throw some pictures of himself onto the site, and everyone realized he was male. Soon, I got his Yahoo address and we talked on there.

After talking for a day or so, he had been complaining about the cold, wet "random weather state" that he lived in. All of this was in November, and I realized that it had been rather cold and wet for the past few days, but it could be the same in many other states. I asked him where he lived, and he gave me the responce that he lved in Richfield Minnesota. I had to kind of do a double take on that one, and responded that Minnesota was one of the most random weather states in the country. I told him that I lived there too.

I got his phone number and talked to him that night. We had a good time and talked until nearly 5 am, which is sad considering we only make it until around midnight now. The next day I had my friend stop over, and he decided to steal my computer when I was making lunch. He had told Max that I liked him, and he responded with a smile and a fact that he liked me too.

Once my friend went home I called Max again, and we talked for a few hours before I asked if he wanted to go out with me. He said no. I felt a little crestfallen, but listened to his reasoning before I spoke. He said he didn't know me well enough yet, so I had him ask whatever hewanted, and I would answer truthfully. I did the same to him. This carried on for another three hours before he asked me out. I said yes.

You see, Max is one of those unique people, who only looks at people for who they are on the inside. He couldn't care less about how I am, and every time I voice my concern, he laughs and tells me that no matter what he loves me. He said I intruiged him in a way that no one else ever had.

After 3 months he told me about the last girlfriend he had, and that he had planned on asking her to marry him, but that it fell through. I told him that he would find someone better that wouldn't hurt him so much. He laughed lightly and said he'd found that person already, and was just waiting for the right time.

There are things about him that do get me a little pissed off though, but everyone has that happen. Me and him have our arguments, but they are foolish and don't last very long as neither of us can stay mad at each other for very long. For him, it's the whole "I'll call you back when I get home" and then doesn't. It got to the point where I wouldn't call him, and no matter what he did, I wouldn't answer when he would call or text or IM me. I figured I would leave him out the way he did to me.

There is very little about him that I can't stand, the only other flaw is his family. Some of them I completely despise. Mainly his brother. And I don't really like his mom much either, but I have to get used to it, as hopefully someday, they will be my family too.

Many things about my Aijin ((lover in Japanese, yes new word)) intruige me. He can be very egotistical, but in a good way. He knows he's gorgeous, but doesn't rub it in to those that are less than him. Also, despite what he says, he is a little arogant. He has money being in the upper-middle to high class, wehre as I am almost as low class as they come. He doesnt' really act like he's rich, but he is a little arogant on occassion. He is polite and kind-hearted though, andeven sensitive, where most men hide their feelings from their loved ones, he chooses to confide in me.

I know hings about him that no one else does, just as he knows things about me. Though I know there are some things we hide from each other, everyone is entitled to their secrets and I will not press them from him. If he chooses to tell me, then so be it.

No mater how hard we try, we know when the other person is having a bad day, be it angry or sad. We can also sense each other's joy, and anxiety. No one knows me better than he does, just as no one knows him better than me. It has almost been 5 months, and it feels like we've been together for years. We know each other's dreams and visions, and we are so willing to support each other to reach those goals.

My Koishii... My Aijin.... My Maxie....

Aisheteru, Koishii, Aisheteru